You could easily believe the rapidity of his action indicates he isn't at all broken up about your break-up, that he had no deep feelings for you and he cavalierly is humming to himself, "Another One Bites The Dust." Those assumptions would be perfectly reasonable. Men Are Simple You see, when men invest emotionally in a relationship, their feelings run as deeply as yours, whether they show it or now.
So, when their relationship crumbles, it causes a huge emotional void.
We may be imagining all sorts of problems that may or may not exist or we’re rationalising our own boundaries, values, and even prior experiences of being in one of these situations (so knowing that we may struggle with the emotional consequences) and are thinking along the lines of, ‘Well…
I’m of a certain age so I need to prepare myself for turning a blind eye to any code amber / red actions and indications because people in this age group tend to be recently broken up / separated / divorced‘. There’s no easy answer to the question of what the ‘right time’ is for dating a separated or recently divorced person.
I thought about your situation and there are a few things I wanted to touch on in my response.
First, you mentioned that he was very stressed after having broken up his relationship of 10 months a couple of weeks ago.
You followed that up with, “I was confused because I thought he really liked me.” Maybe I’m missing something here, but his recent break up with his girlfriend has nothing to do with whether or not he likes you.
They can't cry to their friends, seek solace from their mothers, or drown their feelings in a bucket of "Chunky Monkey."If they thought that kind of behavior would be acceptable, they might engage in it.
I get so many emails asking me about whether to date someone who is separated, recently divorced, or even fresh out of a breakup that I wanted to tackle this tricky subject.
We’re often scared (even if nothing has actually happened yet with a particular person) that we may be letting our last chance or even best chance saloon slip away.
I do understand your concern though about being a rebound. But let’s really look at what’s happening here: You’ve got two people who have been dating for a while.
This is one of those conversations that I hear people talking about all the time. They’re used to each other, they expect the other one to be there and their day-to-day lifestyles are intertwined.