And remember that you shouldn't invest more than he does to keep the relationship balanced at all time.If he hasn't made it official you are a girlfriend, take advantage of the situation to still accept dates from other guys.There is no need to also bring the subject "where is this going" or "are we exclusive?" if he has said it once that he wasn't ready for relationship. The less you are attached and act eager, the safer he feels and the more he wants to come closer and spend more time with you.He’ll come in and go out – like a rubber band – while he works out his feelings and digs deeper to find his ability to go the distance in a real relationship.
There are some good reasons why a woman may insist on paying for herself.
Another reason it’s important for men to pay for a date is that it sends a clear message of your intentions.
If you have a woman split the tab with you she may no longer see this as a “date”.
Instead you may always find him cribbing about work.
Apart from this, you may feel that he lacks ambition and only talks big about himself.