"My fiance is 30 years older than me," says Tirzah Allen.While she waits for people to pick their jaws up off the floor, she explains the benefits of marrying someone old enough to be her dad.
But it was his dad potential that really won her over. The age difference has been good for us because I have a daughter from a previous relationship and Damian was more mature and able to navigate the delicacy of becoming a stepfather," she says.When dating, we are more open to trying out new things, thus a wider gap we list as acceptable. We had very little to talk about or discuss, and never been very close. There was really nothing connecting us except our interest in each other.But relationships are more than just movies and dinners, and moonlight walks on the beach. Other research suggests that the ideal gap in relationships is 4.4 years, and divorced people tend to have a larger disparity in subsequent marriages. Young people usually pair up within their age group, as at that point in life their circle of communication is limited to people of about the same maturity. By then our circles of acquaintances grow to be more spread through generations, and personal values and life style become more important than how old the two partners are.One of my most memorable experiences was dating a guy 20 years older when I was 21. Still, real-life couples rarely have a generation-long discrepancy between them.He was amazing and so much more sophisticated than boys in my university group. Most often in married couples a man is older than a woman.